A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to 40

While walking in a 40 year-old’s shoes for a year I’ve gained insights into this getting older process. So many conversations and questions with others who tackle similar issues. So much introspection. The overarching theme is that there’s a ton of well, everything, to explore at mid-life. As long as we make the time and open ourselves to discovery. And not take everything so seriously.

As I was reflecting about this piece I pictured Nathan Lane in Stephen Sondheim’s A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum—especially that first number when the entire cast entertains on stage. So, to pay homage to the song “A Comedy Tonight” here is my version…mere observations from the written posts and continuing conversations I have with friends regarding this life’s phase.

A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to 40

“Something familiar…”

Hiding behind wrinkles and memories from 1990? Seek the genuine you to resurface. Use your confidence and experience to shine. We don’t have anything to prove—except that there’s more life bottled up within our souls.

“Something peculiar…”

Hearing kids sing 80s songs like they’ve watched MTV for years unsettles you—and yet, makes you proud. Today’s youth doesn’t even know what Aquanet could accomplish, but they can belt Bon Jovi like any solid big hair band groupie.

“Something for everyone…”

There’s a diet or an exercise video series du jour for all. And technology to track whether we’re on task. Fad or fit-tion? What are you hooked on—or hooked up to?

“Something appealing…”

Making more of an effort to prioritize you. Whether that means carving out time for yoga, grabbing wine with friends, or saying no to homeroom parent—block out some blissful minutes. You deserve it.

 “Something appalling…”

Not using up all of your vacation days…or your spouse saving up his/hers. Why not take more breaks to enjoy this vibrant time in your life? Go on an adventure while you still have the energy and health to hike, kayak, and make it through five wineries in one day.

“Tragedy tomorrow…”

Cop shows congest network TV…capitalizing on the public’s fascination with society’s horrors. The real tragedy is shows like Parenthood ending. Time to discover other poignant, well-written dramas and more comedies to lighten our television viewing.

“A Comedy Tonight…”

Find the funny…whether in the mirror or at life’s silly circumstances. Laughing lowers stress and boosts immunity. And creates connections with others. Maybe it’s time to don a toga and whip up some old card games circa college days.

Toga or not, take some steps to evaluate what else you care to experience and make it happen. It’s time to act on some selfish desires to make you happy. Because when you do your entire ensemble will be dancing alongside, uplifted by your joy. "Goodness and badness, panic is madness--this time it all turns out all right!"* And I truly hope it does for you. Let's keep toe tapping down this path and see where Act II leads.

 

 

 

*lyrics from “A Comedy Tonight” from A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum