While
walking in a 40 year-old’s shoes for a year I’ve gained insights into this
getting older process. So many conversations and questions with others who tackle
similar issues. So much introspection. The overarching theme is that there’s a
ton of well, everything, to explore at
mid-life. As long as we make the time and open ourselves to discovery. And not
take everything so seriously.
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As I was
reflecting about this piece I pictured Nathan Lane in Stephen Sondheim’s A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the
Forum—especially that first number when the entire cast entertains on
stage. So, to pay homage to the song “A Comedy Tonight” here is my version…mere
observations from the written posts and continuing conversations I have with
friends regarding this life’s phase.
A Funny Thing Happened
on the Way to 40
“Something familiar…”
Hiding
behind wrinkles and memories from 1990? Seek the genuine you to resurface. Use
your confidence and experience to shine. We don’t have anything to prove—except
that there’s more life bottled up within our souls.
“Something peculiar…”
Hearing
kids sing 80s songs like they’ve watched MTV for years unsettles you—and yet, makes
you proud. Today’s youth doesn’t even know what Aquanet could accomplish, but
they can belt Bon Jovi like any solid big hair band groupie.
“Something for everyone…”
There’s
a diet or an exercise video series du
jour for all. And technology to track whether we’re on task. Fad or
fit-tion? What are you hooked on—or hooked up to?
“Something appealing…”
Making
more of an effort to prioritize you. Whether that means carving out time for
yoga, grabbing wine with friends, or saying no to homeroom parent—block out some blissful
minutes. You deserve it.
“Something appalling…”
Not
using up all of your vacation days…or your spouse saving up his/hers. Why not
take more breaks to enjoy this vibrant time in your life? Go on an adventure
while you still have the energy and health to hike, kayak, and make it through
five wineries in one day.
“Tragedy tomorrow…”
Cop
shows congest network TV…capitalizing on the public’s fascination with
society’s horrors. The real tragedy is shows like Parenthood ending. Time to discover other poignant, well-written
dramas and more comedies to lighten our television viewing.
“A Comedy Tonight…”
Find
the funny…whether in the mirror or at life’s silly circumstances.
Laughing lowers stress and boosts immunity. And creates connections with
others. Maybe it’s time to don a toga and whip up some old card games circa
college days.
Toga or not,
take some steps to evaluate what else you care to experience and make it
happen. It’s time to act on some selfish desires to make you happy. Because
when you do your entire ensemble will be dancing alongside, uplifted by your
joy. "Goodness and badness, panic is madness--this time it all turns out all right!"* And I truly hope it does for you. Let's keep toe tapping down this path and see where Act II leads.
*lyrics
from “A Comedy Tonight” from A Funny
Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum
