Who doesn’t love to root for the underdog? If you’re a
Philadelphia sports fan-- we’re in the thick of it with Eagles loyalists
donning German Shepherd masks. For me, though, sometimes I wonder if I have
the stamina and emotional energy.
I live in a competitive community where people are educated
and successful, and then, by trickle down—so are their kids. And while I, too,
can confidently say my children have it good, by no means are they geniuses or
on the way to the 2026 Paris Olympics. One of my kids feels like he’s stamped
with “always being second best”—never quite getting over the hump to being
amazing.
While I preach the importance of humility, work effort, and
luck…I also think that someone will always be better, not everything happens
for a reason, life can be random, and by doggone it, I’m simply tired of the
pep talks and rosy outlooks. Because I admit it, sometimes I DO want that
number one status—even for a fleeting moment—for that swell of unbridled joy
that comes with such occurrences.
One area in my personal life where I feel this is with my
fourth grade son who has dyslexia. For any parent who bears the constant strain
of building self-esteem in a child who thinks he’s dumb, who struggles with
their child because he can’t memorize like his siblings, and who grows
short-tempered and later guilty after fighting with your kid—all I can say is
that this skin, which can sometimes be thick, weakens and holds fluctuating emotions…daily.
It is not easy. I do look at my sweet, earnest, generous boy as an underdog.
And at times I want to bark at the educators and kids who have made him feel
this way.
Over the past year my perspective of education has shifted. And
I understand the limitations of public schooling—specifically for students with
dyslexia. My own home district won’t even utter that word—it’s a “reading
disability” to them. I came to terms with a system failing my child, which, to
this day, still shocks and disappoints me. I just wish that the general perception
of dyslexia—and therefore, of my son—is that dyslexia is “anything other than a
disadvantage” versus what it is--a different way of learning and thinking.*
Believe me, I worry about my son as he gets older and has to
conform to the confines of our less creative and rigid educational system. Will
he have the energy to succeed that Steve Jobs did? Albert Einstein? Thomas Alva
Edison? Only in fourth grade, time will tell for my son. And as any mother
would attest, even when I feel worn out, I’ll undoubtedly keep cheering for my
kid.
Why do we root for the underdog? Because at times it feels like
the world, (including Cowboys fans), is against them. Because we respect their strength.
We appreciate their ability to get attacked and keep up the fight. We connect
emotionally with their hope. And sometimes, whether it be a sports franchise or
a son, it’s because of pure love.
*Kate Griggs, as quoted in the TEDxBrighton talk “The
Creative Brilliance of Dyslexia”
