Time to Get a Real Job...Na Na Na or Yes Yes Yes?

I remember my very first concert--I must have been four or five. My parents took us to The Great Allentown Fair to see the rock and roll nostalgia group Sha Na Na, who performed in the movie Grease as Johnny Casino and the Gamblers--and had their own syndicated TV show, a favorite in our house. The song that inspired their name, the 1957 Silhouettes tune “Get a Job,” has been ricocheting in my brain. Partly because my 11 year-old daughter keeps insisting that it’s time for me to go back to work full-time. Often she comes home from school and asks me, “What did you do all day?” which, believe me, as a 90% stay-at-home mom, gets under my skin. Even this week, during a pre-holiday spending spree she said, “It would be good if you got a job.”

Would it serve our family well for me to work full-time? How many other fortysomething mothers ponder this question?

Luckily we live in a situation where my husband supports us. But is that enough? And I don’t mean just financially, even as probable college tuition bills loom six years ahead. Do my kids see me as merely a cook, laundry servant, chauffeur, and sports sideline supporter? And does that even matter?

Part of me hesitates to answer, “Yes.”

My mom, a talented elementary school teacher, returned to work when I was in sixth grade, (the same age as my daughter). Seeing my mom teach…and how much she enjoyed it…and how much students loved her…I was proud of her. And I respected her. For being more than just a sweatpants-wearing grocery shopper, (yoga pants weren’t popular in the 80s). She balanced all of the household and kid responsibilities while successfully working. I truly did care that she had her own career to make her an equal to my dad.

And many women prove themselves as equal counterparts. According to the Pew Research Center the share of two-parent households in which both parents work full time stands at 46% in 2015, up from 31% in 1970. For my own health and sanity I think a full-time gig would drive me over the edge. That a more substantial part-time work arrangement would be best…but those jobs aren’t easy to find.

A Forbes article about finding flexible jobs, alluding to life balance, offers that creative and knowledge-based fields like education, design, writing, and IT provide the most flexibility, but some business and healthcare part-time options are now surfacing.

I admit that I wanted my mom to be “more than”…so flash forward to now and what that means as my kids perceive me. And why I hesitated to say “yes” above… because I know the effort, energy, and sacrifices involved if I do work more.

I agree with writer and feminist Betty Friedan who said women can have it all, just not at the same time. The flexibility I enjoy so I can volunteer at my kids’ school, revel in some quiet, write blog posts, and play tennis conflicts with a building pressure I feel. Because I’m an educated, capable person. And I see Sha Na Na’s Bowser flexing while wearing his black muscle shirt, akin to Rosie the Riveter in a similar strong pose, humming that “Get a Job” melody, likely echoing louder in the next few years.

“Each suburban wife struggles with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night- she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question-- 'Is this all?”
― Betty Friedan, The Feminine Mystique , 1963

 

If you’re interested in reading more about going back to work and women in the workplace:

For the Pew Research Center article:

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/11/04/raising-kids-and-running-a-household-how-working-parents-share-the-load/

For the Forbes article about flexible jobs:

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jennagoudreau/2012/12/12/the-10-best-jobs-for-work-and-family-balance/

And even more related reading:

http://www.economist.com/news/united-states/21600998-after-falling-years-proportion-mums-who-stay-home-rising-return

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/14/upshot/us-employment-women-not-working.html

http://ideas.time.com/2013/06/12/lets-not-forget-many-working-moms-want-to-work-less/

A Heartfelt Thank You--To My Children

Dear Kids,

For all of the “please” and “thank you”s I nudge you to say to others, this is a chance to thank YOU for all that you bring to my life. I have been a mother for eleven and a half years, which sounds insignificant based on how much I value being your parent and the amount of energy I throw into being a mom. Feels like I have been your mother for decades, that I have known your spirits for my entire life.

As this is our thankful holiday week I’d like to express my gratitude to you…for:

·         The amount of pride I feel. For every time you take a risk and put yourself out there, I’m proud of you for taking chances. For learning. For achieving. For being good friends. For being compassionate. For being respectful of your teachers, coaches, and friends’ parents. I love watching you grow up as I see a glimmer of the adults you’re going to be.

·         The joy you bring into this home. The other day my three boys ran around the house, dressed in sunglasses and hats, quietly laughing while spying on me doing housework. I loved watching you be kids and enjoy the morning together. Or seeing my daughter’s face light up as she wrapped her friend’s birthday present, animatedly talking about the gifts she chose and why. I love the energy you all bring into this world.

·         The patience I had to learn. Being a mother isn’t easy. The arguments, the tears, the frustration, the worrying, the constant needs…I feel pulled in many directions, and I have realized that stressing about every incident only makes me unsettled. To save my sanity I know the importance of taking a step back, taking deep breaths, and trying to keep perspective of the bigger picture.

·         The emotions that make me feel alive. For every cornerkick, time you step on a starting block, wind up on the pitching mound, toss a second serve…my stomach fills with butterflies because I know how much you are trying and want to succeed…and I know that you have to rely on yourself and your own grit. I want your confidence to blossom, that I surrogately carry your feelings, and I’m riding right alongside you. Those highs and lows energize life.

·         The opportunity to teach. I love quizzing you on “Name that artist” when the car radio plays, teaching you favorite recipes, and showing you my love for appreciating new places. To me, there is a comfort knowing that my passions can be shared with the people I love the most, another generation, and that I even hope that some of our common interests will be passed down long after I’m gone.

·         Being able to help. You all are distinct individuals, all coming into your own personalities, and I am lucky to help you determine what interests you. Like The Giving Tree I want to give you the support you need until I’m a little stump in some assisted living facility.

·         Unconditionally loving me. I’m fully aware I’m not perfect, that sometimes you get angry or disagree with me, but in my heart I know our connection is strong, no matter what.

 

You all make my soul soar. You are my blessings who I powerfully want to protect forever, you are my perspective compass, you are my truest loves.

--Mom

You're Grounded...Or Are You?

Do you automatically plug your mobile phone in the charger when you get into your car? Feel an immediate panic if you forget your device at home when running errands? Guilty here. I let my gas tank fall well below a quarter, yet feel uneasy if my phone’s charge is less than 35%. It’s incredible how tethered we are to technology, yet we intrinsically know that separating ourselves is healthy, (as I type with my laptop warming my legs and my phone to my left).

How connected are you? And does checking whatever online pursuit make you happy? More stressed? Does it drain you?

Made me think how much truer to myself I feel when I separate myself from technology.

So when I read an article a month ago in Rodale Wellness about grounding I related to it. “Grounding” means connecting your body directly to Earth and experiencing the benefits of the electric fields. Manifested, grounding means walking barefoot in sand or letting your sockless feet feel natural elements like wood and grass. And if anyone knows me, I hate bare feet. I never even let my summer babies go sockless, fearing they would pick up germs, thinking they looked part-naked. But what if barefooting, a term just concocted, brings better health?

The article’s author, Dr. Steven Sinatra, writes about the healing impact that grounding has on blood viscosity, that when blood is thick it causes clots and inflammation. But when our body is connected to Mother Earth’s energy our red blood cells repel against each other and blood’s consistency is thinner, more like red wine, because it’s more oxygenated—which is healthier for our tissues and organs. So, in an effort to be more like red wine…

…I tried it.

On a cool October afternoon I actually went barefoot and stood on my sunny deck for a few minutes. I immediately felt the warmth through my soles. Then I stood on our pavers for a bit, progressing to grass to absorb the different textures. Did I immediately feel electrons zip through my body? I’m not sure, but I did feel more connected to Mother Earth, and it felt good. I could feel my mood lighten, and a more solid, relaxed presence filled my body.

Some of my friends tease me that I become a hermit during the colder months, and for someone who thrives when outdoors I do miss the solidarity of feeling the elements, hearing the birds, sensing the wind on my cheeks. I’d just rather do that in warmer seasons. So….what to do as the temperature dips and there’s no way I’ll go outside without wearing my Ugg knock-offs? Ways to ground indoors include sitting in the sun, taking a salt bath, picking up a rock and feeling it, and eating healthy foods.

In this high-paced, linked in world where we jump to a text’s chime, remember the raw power of connecting to nature. Try your own method of grounding, a way to recharge sans technology. Take a shoeless walk…a step good for your “sole.”

 

The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely, or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quite alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy amidst the simple beauty of nature. ...I firmly believe that nature brings solace in all troubles.   

--Anne Frank

For the Rodale Wellness article:

http://www.rodalewellness.com/mind-spirit/forgotten-health-trick-you-need-do-150-minutes-week

Is This a New Age for Our Parents...or For Us?

When I think of New Age I immediately think of music: Enya, Yaz, Enigma... I don’t consider myself an expert in this genre, yet some of their CDs hide in a box somewhere in the basement. These beats and lyrical notes have an ethereal, philosophical, and relaxing vibe. As my Yanni Pandora station played the other day I thought of the term “new age,” and it made me think of my parents and in-laws as they enter their seventh decade…definitely a different era for them, a new age to embrace. Like the music, will it be relaxing? Seeming to belong to another world?

And why skip ahead to “Searching Seventy?” While our parents’ lives change, and not just they accepting getting older, it brings a dear truth for us cresting midlife…our own questions/different reality. For those with living parents, do you see them in a new age? How do you see them in a different light?

Without exposing my family’s details, I will say that I have seen a transformation unfold, and I’m learning how I hope to be in the future. I have witnessed a sense of a finite time remaining, a practical approach preparing for old age, and an increased sentimentality about life.

For me, though, I always attached these thoughts and feelings with my grandparents. I remember sitting in their sunny, small ranch. At the kitchen table, covered with a clear, plastic tablecloth, I waited for Grandmom to bring me “coffee”—warm milk with a splash of the real stuff, in a flowered cup and saucer. My Pop Pop would be sitting to my right, expertly carving off pear skin and slicing the fruit into pieces to share. At age 6, 11, 15, and 20, I’d be sitting in the same spot, they telling me how lucky I was to be young, that years go by so quickly. I would listen and conjure up images of their younger selves, and promise to remember their advice—and think, how lucky that I had so much time ahead.

But now it’s my parents and in-laws doing their version with my kids. And I blink—like it’s some time warp, or maybe it’s tears, because now I see them as I once saw my grandparents. And I selfishly wonder, is the most difficult part of my parents’ aging the knowing that I am only 28 years behind?

I love the Enigma song, “Return to Innocence,” but I haven’t heard it in years. When I googled it yesterday its video popped up on YouTube. Like fate was reading my mind, its video highlights older people and gives a sense of life’s love, purity, and simplicity…and finishes with time reversing, showing the characters as younger versions. A beautiful reminder that life is but a wave of moments and memories, and that in the end all of the craziness, drama, and stress will be forgotten…and those simple sentiments, like sharing a coffee and pear, those are what should stick. A reminder to think of older people with their younger souls intact. I wish for my parents and in-laws a return to those effortless virtues in this decade…for them and me.

 

If you'd like to view the Enigma “Return to Innocence” video:

Return to Innocence video

Give Me a Break, or Rather, Take One

One of the perks of working at a dot-com consulting company during the late-90s Internet boom was the clichéd ping pong breaks. Sure, we had coffee, too, but having the ping pong table in the office felt youthful and carefree. Who didn’t love hitting something during the day amidst busy projects?

My ping pong table—both literal and figurative—is catching dust in our basement. As much as I have been striving for better balance, I still get caught up in the crazy, chaotic busy-ness of our days and weeks. But that’s not healthy. In my head I often hear Nell Carter sing the theme song from the 1980s TV show, “Gimme a Break.”

Are we too busy coordinating our kids’ lives? Working? Running to the grocery store? Doing laundry? That we can’t squeeze in mini breaks for our sanity’s sake?

Last week my graceful yoga instructor made an off-hand comment, that in yoga we do a series of poses, and then we recover with a rest, like child’s pose. And she remarked, “Wouldn’t it be nice in life if we took more breaks like in yoga?” Which, of course, got me thinking.

Then a Harvard Business Review article popped up in my Twitter feed, “The Making of a Corporate Athlete” by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz, which puts another spin on the need for downtime. They liken high performance athletes with power executives, recognizing the need for energy renewal for business leaders to be more successful—just as those in sports need rest to be better on the field/court/turf. They write:

In the living laboratory of sports, we learned that the real enemy of high performance is not stress, which, paradoxical as it may seem, is actually the stimulus for growth. Rather, the problem is the absence of disciplined, intermittent recovery. Chronic stress without recovery depletes energy reserves, leads to burnout and breakdown, and ultimately undermines performance.

Anyone ever feel burnout? No need to undermine our lives, because, let’s face it—we perform all of the time. We may not be on the cover of Fortune or Sports Illustrated, but our lives move at a pressured pace. The importance of rest still remains. In this rat race of life we are all high powered executives, all super athletes, striving, on some days, to simply survive. I just think of Ivan Drago pounding on Rocky’s scarlet boxing gloves saying, “I must break you.” And I suppose… better to take a break versus feeling shattered ourselves.

 

For additional reading...“The Making of a Corporate Athlete” article:

The Making of a Corporate Athlete

 

 

Be a Mean Girl

I haven’t written a post in awhile. For many reasons. One being that dear friends have been caretaking their 12 year-old daughter, first bedside in a children’s hospital’s cardiac ICU, and now at home.

Who am I to ponder questions of getting older when a young girl fights for her life with her family soldiering alongside? When my friends live in a separate reality that most never witness? Seems rather indulgent of me.

When kids get sick and face life-threatening illnesses...most sane people with a heart question why. How could “this” happen to a child and his or her family? People will tsk, shake their heads, some say a silent prayer, and hope to dear life for faith and healing. And shudder at the thought of going through a daunting hell.

Back in July my beautiful friend looked at me with pleading eyes when I asked how they are all doing. She responded, “I really hope there’s meaning in all of this. That being sick has brought meaning to people—either bringing the community closer together or something else powerful.”

I can’t speak for everyone who’s been affected by a sick child, but I can attest how much this family and strong girl have impacted me. Here are my observations:

·         A parent’s powerful love for a child is limitless. And when tested that strength grows in unbounded ways.

·         People’s perspectives do shift. They are touched and reminded of life’s fragility and importance.

·         Generosity abounds. I have seen how people respond, being awed by anonymous monetary donations, people giving of their time, and many reminders of constant thoughtfulness.

·         Faith stands out as a core to survival. Faith in family, in friends, in medicine, in miracles, in a higher power, in a mysterious, ever-changing life flow.

·         Children should not be underestimated. By their resilience, their compassion, and their ability to still be kids despite challenging circumstances.

They have showed me the importance of gratitude and taking the time to pause and reflect.

Appreciating meaning makes life more substantial, true. But you don’t have to witness a life-threatening illness to bring more meaning to your life—and to others. I suggest striving to be a “mean” girl…or man. I’m not saying to take a tip from Tina Fey’s 2004 hit movie, Mean Girls, but rather to stop and think whether you live with purpose towards the people you value. That if suddenly you were absent, would it matter? Would you be missed?

Don’t miss out on real relationships, true connections. Be mean…ingful. As American spiritual essayist Thomas Merton wrote, “We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another.”

Not only seek meaning from challenging, heart-gripping situations like when a community rallies around a family with a sick child, but continue to look for truths in everyday circumstances…and look within to make a difference in someone else’s life. Be significant. Be faithful. Simply be there.

 

For Better...or It Could Be Worse?

On a recent minivan drive I popped in a movie that I thought would incite backlash remarks…no hobbits, no light sabers, and no transforming robots. From the front passenger seat I started hearing recognizable music and Hailey Mills’s iconic voice, and I braced myself for comments from the back two rows. Instead, as the kids started watching Pollyanna I heard chuckles, “I love this movie,” and a request on the journey home for a repeat viewing. This warmed my heart because, as kids, my sister and I watched this movie over and over. I secretly wanted to attend the bazaar at the film’s end to get a slice of sky high layer cake.

The lesson of the movie—in case you’ve never seen the 1960 Disney classic—is to make the best of any situation. To be glad no matter what. To determine what’s good…even if seemingly bad. Which got me thinking…there must be a post in here somewhere.

In life—is it healthier to be content? To always see the good? Or to see the flaws and strive for better?

In my family, sometimes even unconsciously, whenever life throws a lemon, my parents or siblings predictably respond, “Well, it could be worse.”  

So, when putting your situation in perspective—friendships, marriage, jobs, health--do you stop with “it could be worse” and simply be grateful for the current state? Or do you actively try to improve?

I’ve always loved the newspaper’s comics section—admittedly making me feel less intellectual when I get tossed the funnies while my husband reads about world events. One strip I’ve missed is Lynn Johnston’s For Better or For Worse comic—which detailed the seemingly real lives of the Patterson family from 1979 to 2008. Johnston’s take on marriage, sibling dynamics, and current events always made me think—this happens in every community and family. And usually I’d smile—and even sometimes feel the tug on my heartstrings.

The strip ends with Liz marrying her high school friend, Anthony. On the wedding day the mom, Elly, tells her friend, Connie, “This is all happening so fast.”

Indeed, life speeds by with a pace sometimes leaving me breathless and prompting an 8:30 PM bedtime. Since that is the case, and we only have so much time together on this planet…why not combine the practice of being ever-grateful, balanced with a focus to improve what’s important to you. If you miss a friend, make more of an effort to spend time together. If spousal expectations lack, communicate what you need to improve the marriage. It’s not an “or” proposition…it’s for better AND for worse. You don’t have to be content at the expense of not enhancing. And be glad that you devoted the energy to fulfill your life’s potential and happiness.

"Never lose the childlike wonder. Show gratitude...Don't complain; just work harder...Never give up."

--Randy Pausch

http://www.fbofw.com/   Lynn Johnston’s official website for her comic strip, For Better or For Worse

You Deplete Me

If I hear the movie title Jerry Maguire, I immediately picture Cuba Gooding, Jr. passionately repeat, “Show me the money!” This popped into my head last week as I was spring cleaning my DVD collection in hopes of 1.) urging along warmer spring weather, and 2.) finding some Thomas DVD for my 3 year-old. The movie jacket for the 1996 flick starring Tom Cruise and Renée Zellweger made me smile. As a leadership studies undergrad I learned the importance of vision statements. So I especially appreciate Tom Cruise’s titled character having his eureka moment, inspiring him to write his own statement about being a better sports agent.  At the movie’s start Maguire takes a long, hard look in the mirror, and an intense passion fires him up about changing the typical agent-athlete relationship. In the end, that focus reduces his number of clients to one, Rod Tidwell. 

Do you sometimes feel in life that the person in front of you truly doesn’t see you for who you are? That you are reduced to someone you are not? 

There’s nothing worse than people judging—or misjudging-- you. Except that I’ll add when it’s someone close to you. When certain relationships disappoint I end up feeling drained. Or as an adaption to Zellweger’s famous quip, I think to myself, “You deplete me.” Because I literally feel anxious, stressed, and even zapped of energy.

Psychologist Dr. Sherrie Bourg Carter writes in Psychology Today, “In the times we live in, energy, especially the positive kind, is a precious commodity. It's not something you should willingly give up to the negative power of those who would steal your energy.”

And seeing someone does not take that much effort. Maybe an extra silence so you can listen to what he/she is saying or taking a conscious effort to read facial expressions and body language. A few days ago I was driving through a food store giant’s infamous parking lot—which is always jam-packed. I shockingly witnessed three people in their 60s and 70s just cross to the entrance without a mere glance at the surrounding cars. 

As we age do we just not care as much to look? To see?

There truly is a positive power in seeing. And a danger exists, (and not just getting hit by a car), in not—because that inability fractures relationships. I’ve discovered when someone interacts with me, not listening, and definitely not seeing my point of view, that they come across as dismissive and condescending. And at this stage in life, with only so much energy to offer the universe, that it makes sense to distance yourself, set boundaries, remind yourself that it isn’t you, and most importantly perhaps, remember these feelings when you’re the one “seeing” someone else.

Hopefully you have that vision and make an affirmative statement in your relationships--that the person on the receiving end actually feels stronger, better, and appreciated. See what I mean?

For the article “How to Deal With People Who Drain You”:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/high-octane-women/201203/how-deal-people-who-drain-you 

How Do You Fancy To Take Flight?

This month’s neighborhood book club chose Sue Monk Kidd’s The Invention of Wings, a fine narrative set in the early 1800s Charleston and Philadelphia. The two Southern plantation daughters, Sarah and Angelina Grimké, become abolitionists and women’s rights leaders--who were actual pioneers in our American history. I deeply sympathized with the rebellious slaves, mom Charlotte and daughter Hetty, and how they plot to gain their independence. Kidd weaves their challenging, moving stories, illustrating how these women create paths to freedom, inventing their own wings so they could soar and be at peace.

It may sound melodramatic to identify with lack of choices and feeling trapped…especially being educated, white, and it being 2015. But I do.

Over coffee this week friends and I discussed staying home to raise our children. I connected with comments about feeling restricted and not financially free. How we support our spouses to flourish in their careers while managing the home and kid responsibilities, the whole “default parent” bit. We know how much we contribute, yet still feel guilt about spending money. That we miss utilizing our degrees. That it can be lonely. But we honestly don’t seek full-time jobs, knowing the stress potentially added to home life. We admitted to not being able to have it all—which is fine, but sometimes uncertain feelings still sap our energy. By all means, we know how good we have it, but that doesn’t dismiss that veil of female longing, questioning, and wondering…themes whirling in Kidd’s novel, 200 years later.

Do you ever feel trapped? That you have lost your independence? Your will to follow your path?

 A few months ago one of my girlfriends scoffed at me, saying I was clipping my 10 year-old daughter’s ambitions for having career conversations. I had told her about my forthright mom-daughter chats describing the many hats a woman wears—and if she chooses to get married and have a family, that there are some professions with more flexibility than others. My friend wondered why I’d limit my daughter, why I would curtail her dreams. Being an impassioned dreamer I heartily asserted that was not my plan. Instead, I intend to help my daughter see the realities of being a grown-up, professional, working woman with a family. Isn’t that what being a feminist is? To help advance women to make their own choices? In my heart I want to give my daughter wings by showing possibilities, not by limiting them.

In the movie Maleficent Angelina Jolie-Pitt’s titled character becomes bitter and resigned after the king brutally removes her wings.  None of us should be in that dark place. For any person—man or woman—it takes individual drive to follow their own flight to figure out their future path. For some, it may take more energy and ingenuity than others…but I do believe that we all have the power to fly. We may just have to invent those wings ourselves.

“One can never consent to creep when one feels the impulse to soar.”
- Helen Keller

 

For The New York Times review of The Invention of Wings: http://www.nytimes.com/2014/01/26/books/review/the-invention-of-wings-by-sue-monk-kidd.html?_r=0

The “default parent” piece:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/m-blazoned/the-default-parent_b_6031128.html

A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to 40

While walking in a 40 year-old’s shoes for a year I’ve gained insights into this getting older process. So many conversations and questions with others who tackle similar issues. So much introspection. The overarching theme is that there’s a ton of well, everything, to explore at mid-life. As long as we make the time and open ourselves to discovery. And not take everything so seriously.

As I was reflecting about this piece I pictured Nathan Lane in Stephen Sondheim’s A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum—especially that first number when the entire cast entertains on stage. So, to pay homage to the song “A Comedy Tonight” here is my version…mere observations from the written posts and continuing conversations I have with friends regarding this life’s phase.

A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to 40

“Something familiar…”

Hiding behind wrinkles and memories from 1990? Seek the genuine you to resurface. Use your confidence and experience to shine. We don’t have anything to prove—except that there’s more life bottled up within our souls.

“Something peculiar…”

Hearing kids sing 80s songs like they’ve watched MTV for years unsettles you—and yet, makes you proud. Today’s youth doesn’t even know what Aquanet could accomplish, but they can belt Bon Jovi like any solid big hair band groupie.

“Something for everyone…”

There’s a diet or an exercise video series du jour for all. And technology to track whether we’re on task. Fad or fit-tion? What are you hooked on—or hooked up to?

“Something appealing…”

Making more of an effort to prioritize you. Whether that means carving out time for yoga, grabbing wine with friends, or saying no to homeroom parent—block out some blissful minutes. You deserve it.

 “Something appalling…”

Not using up all of your vacation days…or your spouse saving up his/hers. Why not take more breaks to enjoy this vibrant time in your life? Go on an adventure while you still have the energy and health to hike, kayak, and make it through five wineries in one day.

“Tragedy tomorrow…”

Cop shows congest network TV…capitalizing on the public’s fascination with society’s horrors. The real tragedy is shows like Parenthood ending. Time to discover other poignant, well-written dramas and more comedies to lighten our television viewing.

“A Comedy Tonight…”

Find the funny…whether in the mirror or at life’s silly circumstances. Laughing lowers stress and boosts immunity. And creates connections with others. Maybe it’s time to don a toga and whip up some old card games circa college days.

Toga or not, take some steps to evaluate what else you care to experience and make it happen. It’s time to act on some selfish desires to make you happy. Because when you do your entire ensemble will be dancing alongside, uplifted by your joy. "Goodness and badness, panic is madness--this time it all turns out all right!"* And I truly hope it does for you. Let's keep toe tapping down this path and see where Act II leads.

 

 

 

*lyrics from “A Comedy Tonight” from A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum